Float like a Butterfly OR Sting like a Bee

Gone are the days where rumours flew between defence spouses as to who had an OMO box in their window*. 

Today’s defence spouse is net savvy and heavily opinionated. 

Visual facebook slanging matches, screen shots and stalking have become common practice within the culture of a modern day defence WAG**.

Defence spouses who know the address of their "opponent" without ever having met them. Queue the technological cage fights and call outs.

Is it because of the times turning, women in general are more headstrong and independent and no longer need a man to defend their honour, defence spouses need to be a whole special breed of tough. They now call a spade a “fucking spade” and if anyone wants to argue that it is indeed a shovel, better duck and run for cover.

Entering the defence wag domain on facebook is definitely not for the faint hearted. You will read posts divulging far too much information about sex lives, husbands and hatred... Show-offs and scrag fights are all too common.

The drive to be queen bitch is a monumental feat that some newcomers to the defence spouse way of life deem themselves worthy of. These five minute WAG’s write blogs about their soldiers/sailors/airmen as though they understand the life, the ups and downs and all the disappointments that come with it, all while their fearless “hero” is being taught to make a bed with perfect hospital corners at the first port of call...basic training. 

How are these 5min wives supposed to understand what it is like to care for 3 sick children while sick yourself with zero support from anyone? How can they comprehend that you NEVER EVER EVER get your hopes up about anything because as soon as you do something from the ADF will come along and change things so that you miss out? 

Other WAG’s believe the queen B title should be based on rank....or lack thereof (the number of “junior rank” wives who will not associate with wives who’s partners “have rank” far outweighs the reverse in my experience.) 

Really all you need to know is that if you are stepping into the arena that is defence WAG pages on facebook make sure you have a large supply of tissues for your issues and have your big girl knickers on. You will need them!

*OMO boxes (washing powder) were used to display the acronym “old man’s out” signalling that the household was man free and open to marital digressions. The OMO box was replaced with a box of FAB when the man of the house returned “Fucking Arsehole’s Back”

** WAG’s= wives and girlfriends.

The Cage ...

So we have a new little group on FB called cage fight, its booming, its entertaining and its a free for all. I have sat back and watched people come in vent their shit and its all good, all good until someone comes in and tells them that what they are doing is wrong – then you get eaten alive. Some are then going back to their “support groups” – now you know my opinion on them – see last post, and are bagging the shit out of it.

200 plus wags letting it all out – its healthy, its keeping it out of the groups (well apart from the idiots talking about the group in other groups.

There are no rules in this group but there should be one – THOSE WHO CAGE FIGHT DONT TALK ABOUT CAGE FIGHT.

I see this group as a positive thing there is no deleting by admin (who might I add is a funny funny bitch) people come in “call out” someone for a explanation on their behaviour – this other person chooses if they will do so. It’s quite adult when you thing about it as a bigger picture.

There are a lot of personalities in there some bigger than others, but most that you have never seen talking like this before, the quite timid wholesome ones who really let it out. Breeders and non breeders alike sharing.

Is it better to bottle up and sit there and fume or feel the release of hitting that enter button.

Not everyone comments most just watch with popcorn waiting.

I was very surprised to see a little Miss who has caused a massive uproar on FB actually answer some questions that has been put too her not all but some – She did allow people back into the group (not that the link worked for everyone) but now has deleted said group – bit suss.

If you are going to visit this little group go in with a open mind a glass of wine and read away – don’t over analyse what you see and really read it ..... and if it looks choppy and if people are talking to themselves well honey you have been BLOCKED .... Perhaps you should do a call out of your own. 

Block Happy on FB ...

It is a personal peeve, pet hate whatever you want to describe it as being BLOCKED on FB.

I love watching people go at it on FB I think its hilarious,  its that little feeling inside that makes you happy that there are people more retarded then you in this little world.  The anger, the passion its a wonderful thing .... then it takes these next steps.

1. I don’t like you so I’m going to make another group that serves that same purpose as yours but because I can be a admin and be power hungry and say no you can’t come in my little group blah blah blah. 
2. The people who are not allowed in make fake profiles to gain access to so said groups and manage to take screen dumps of the “I hate blah blah group” and then it gets back to the other people they were bitching about.
3. The original people who did the booting to begin with now have caught wind of it and make yet another group to bitch about those people.

And there we have the FB circle of life.

Can you imagine if this was a workplace .... Your Fired

I would love to run into certain people who have said shit about me, but alas due to our posting locations this will probably never happen. 

Oh and this is why we have so many so called support groups – THEY ARE NOT SUPPORT GROUPS THEY ARE BITCHING GROUPS AND IF YOU ARE FRIENDS WITH SOME PEOPLE THEN YOU WILL NEVER BE ADDED OR YOU WILL BE ON THE PRE BLOCKED LIST (YES THEY EXIST) – YOU MAY KNOW SOME INFORMATION THAT WILL HELP A PERSON – WHO WILL ACTUALLY NOT TAKE YOUR ADVICE THEY JUST WANT THE ATTENTION TO HAVE PEOPLE COMMENT ON THEIR THREAD SO THAT THEY CAN BE MORE REASSURED. 

Civi Says ... Defence Do

I thought I might start this off pretty light, don’t want to go and shock you all into submission just yet.  There have been a few articles in the papers lately about defence and even the possible attainment of more serving members to Darwin (that was posted on the Dfof Page).  The amount of stupid things and reasons people put to this “travesty”  ...  ppfftt get nicked ... was some of the funniest yet disturbing things i have read.

So this brings me to my first ever post ..... Stupid ridiculous things uninformed Civilians say to Defence ....

1. We get free housing .... UM NO but the NT Police force do. We do get subsidised housing that is ment to equate to 50% of the Market rent (calculated as an average across AU)
2.  We get discounted Power and utility bills ... UM NO but we can get a defender discount from Telstra of $10 off per month of a bundle.
3. We get paid huge $$ for wages ... See now this one pisses me off the most because its pittance. If it wasn’t for Service allowance it would be below min wage.
4. In response to more defence in Darwin this is on the thread : Oh! The will probably get their housing andland from Housing Commission. Thats why no-one can buy their own houses anymore, sell it 2 Defence Dept.  ..... IM SORRY WTF ?????

These are just a few .... IM sure there are many more feel free to post them below in the comments section